Anger is a common and healthy emotion that can help people relieve stress, motivate them to solve problems, and provide a way, through healthy expression, for people to discuss their negative feelings.
It is perfectly normal to experience anger, and at times, anger is the appropriate response to the actions of others. When you manage it correctly and keep it in check, anger can be an important ally to a healthy adult. Anger though has its risks, it can alienate people from others and lead people to do things that they will later regret. Anger can be triggered by a situation or a feeling. If you are experiencing lasting or extreme anger it might be helpful to explore the causes with a counsellor.
Understanding your Anger
Managing reactions to anger can decrease the likelihood that it will become a problem. Anger sometimes is used as a mask for other emotions that a person is less comfortable in expressing. Some people show anger rather than fear, sadness or loneliness and by resorting to anger they are protecting themselves from pity or ridicule.
Those people who let their anger out be screaming or yelling at someone else might make them feel better, but these outbursts can become a habit that needs to be broken. Expressing this type of anger can fuel the person’s stress and make the recipient fearful or retaliatory.
When your anger becomes a problem
Powerful emotions can influence your thought patterns and behaviours. Anger can contribute to aggression and violence, intentional or unintentional acts of self-harm and social and legal problems. Anger can also be a sign of psychological conditions such as depression or a bipolar disorder. Drug and alcohol abuse could aggravate your anger and reduce your self control and increase your impulsive tendencies.
A person who has a problem with anger, may be aware of it and not know what to do or be unaware that there is a problem. Or they are aware and deny any responsibility for the problem.
Signs of anger issues can include:
Managing your Anger
Frequent anger can begin to affect your daily actions and relationships negatively. A person who experiences intense and frequent anger may wish to talk with a counsellor to reduce the problem to manageable levels. Also, if your anger isn’t extreme you could take steps independently to control both your emotions and behavioural effects.
These steps can include:
Counselling for Anger
Anger control can be difficult at times, emotional outbursts, physical aggression and violence are a few of the results of anger problems. People who experience chronic anger tend to be more susceptible to health conditions such as diabetes, heart disease, insomnia, high blood pressure and depression. Counselling may be helpful for people who wish to work on controlling their anger.
With the help of a counsellor, those who have anger issues may be able to discover what lies behind their frustration and rage. With a counsellor’s assistance, you can identify your triggers and learn healthy ways to avoid or cope with those situations.
Emotional control is a key component to effective anger therapy, this technique empowers you to be able to face uncertain and stressful situations with control and emotional balance.
Counsellors will use techniques such as Relaxation techniques, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, skill development, or mindfulness to help you manage your anger. Research has shown that a combination of these have been effective in helping people with anger issues.
Cognitive behaviour therapy is one of today's most effective forms of psychotherapy. "Cognitive" refers to what we think and how we think. As counsellors we believe that emphasise should be placed on understanding the thoughts, beliefs and behaviours that are connected with our clients moods, physical experiences and events in our lives. The central idea in CBT is that your thoughts about an event or experience powerfully affect your emotional, behavioural and physical responses to the event or experience.
I am here to help you to identify and understand the connections among your thoughts, moods, behaviours and physical reactions in everyday situations as well as during major events in your life. You will learn to think about yourself and situations in more helpful ways and to change the thinking patterns and behaviours that keep you stuck in distressing moods and relationships. You will discover how to make changes in your life when your thoughts alert you to problems that need to be solved. Finally these changes will help you feel happier, calmer, more confident and help you create and enjoy more positive relationships. The skills that you learn will also help you with stress, alcohol and drug use; eating issues. relationship struggles, low self-esteem and more.
The more time that you spend practicing these skills the more benefit you will receive.