Meditation and how to live in a stressful world
We live in a wonderful world, filled with opportunities and wonder and yet, the reality is that most of us spend most of our day focusing on the negative. We worry and have negative thought patterns from the moment we rise in the morning, we worry about our jobs, financial security, family, safety and more.
The result from this is that we begin to feel angry, frustrated, depressed, anxious and in very sever cases suicidal because we feel that there is no end to the dark road we are walking.
We forget that the world is a beautiful place, full of loving people and beautiful places. In times of stress and disasters is it important to look around and recognise that you are the master of your own destiny and potential.
Today one person in in five is taking one form of antidepressant or another, or they are under the care of a psychologist. This is partially due to the stress from our society and the negative thoughts that we burden ourselves with, such as needing to earn more money to pay the bills, a house to shelter you which has become unaffordable, food on the table, you see no end in sight.
These are all valid fears but letting them take over your life will actually bring them into being. Negative speech and thought patterns have the ability to manifest in the physical world, for example I'm sure everyone has thought at some point in their life "WHY ME". Well the why me is because you created it, through meditation these old patterns can be altered to positive thoughts,feelings and actions. we are able to achieve health, wealth and happiness through meditation.
Meditation is a practice designed to help your mind, body and spirit to regain its focus, recharge its batteries and its focus in a space of quiet and contemplation. In this space you may find that you have found a safe haven where nothing can harm you and your problems and worries drift away, allowing you to face your day with a calm and positive attitude.
In this meditative state, you can also begin to heal your problems by getting in touch with the Divine, so that you are able to receive inspiration and thoughts. In this state, without conscious thought on your part, new ideas, and answers to your problems will rise, so that you can then take action to bring them into being.
Through meditation, you can for a time cut yourself off from the world and simply relax, sure in the knowledge that you are safe and at peace.
Why Meditation isn't Relaxation
Relaxation is a vital part of living a healthy happy lifestyle. If you don't give yourself time to simply relax everyday, physical and mental problems will occur. However, many people believe that meditation is just a form of deep relaxation. This is partially true, meditation results in relaxation of the body, mind and spirit. To be relaxed doesn't exclude outside influences, you will react to what is going on around you, interact with others, watch television etc.
Meditation results in relaxation but it is mostly a secondary benefit. whereas relaxation is automatic, just by resting. Meditation is a conscious activity. It is something that you purposely bring about. The goal of meditation is emptiness and tranquillity not just to be relaxed.
Meditation, What do I need to Do?
Meditation must be undertaken with an awareness of what is happening and what you are doing. In order to practice meditation effectively and eventually achieve something of real and lasting worth you need to be aware of the things that actually happen.
Concentration Techniques to aid Meditation
While there are many different types of concentration techniques, I have chosen to only include these as they have been tried and tested and proven to be effective.
The point to remember at this time is don't get frustrated and stop. Take A few deep breaths and start again. Remember stay positive, calm and relaxed and you will succeed.
Anger is a common and healthy emotion that can help people relieve stress, motivate them to solve problems, and provide a way, through healthy expression, for people to discuss their negative feelings.
It is perfectly normal to experience anger, and at times, anger is the appropriate response to the actions of others. When you manage it correctly and keep it in check, anger can be an important ally to a healthy adult. Anger though has its risks, it can alienate people from others and lead people to do things that they will later regret. Anger can be triggered by a situation or a feeling. If you are experiencing lasting or extreme anger it might be helpful to explore the causes with a counsellor.
Understanding your Anger
Managing reactions to anger can decrease the likelihood that it will become a problem. Anger sometimes is used as a mask for other emotions that a person is less comfortable in expressing. Some people show anger rather than fear, sadness or loneliness and by resorting to anger they are protecting themselves from pity or ridicule.
Those people who let their anger out be screaming or yelling at someone else might make them feel better, but these outbursts can become a habit that needs to be broken. Expressing this type of anger can fuel the person’s stress and make the recipient fearful or retaliatory.
When your anger becomes a problem
Powerful emotions can influence your thought patterns and behaviours. Anger can contribute to aggression and violence, intentional or unintentional acts of self-harm and social and legal problems. Anger can also be a sign of psychological conditions such as depression or a bipolar disorder. Drug and alcohol abuse could aggravate your anger and reduce your self control and increase your impulsive tendencies.
A person who has a problem with anger, may be aware of it and not know what to do or be unaware that there is a problem. Or they are aware and deny any responsibility for the problem.
Signs of anger issues can include:
Managing your Anger
Frequent anger can begin to affect your daily actions and relationships negatively. A person who experiences intense and frequent anger may wish to talk with a counsellor to reduce the problem to manageable levels. Also, if your anger isn’t extreme you could take steps independently to control both your emotions and behavioural effects.
These steps can include:
Counselling for Anger
Anger control can be difficult at times, emotional outbursts, physical aggression and violence are a few of the results of anger problems. People who experience chronic anger tend to be more susceptible to health conditions such as diabetes, heart disease, insomnia, high blood pressure and depression. Counselling may be helpful for people who wish to work on controlling their anger.
With the help of a counsellor, those who have anger issues may be able to discover what lies behind their frustration and rage. With a counsellor’s assistance, you can identify your triggers and learn healthy ways to avoid or cope with those situations.
Emotional control is a key component to effective anger therapy, this technique empowers you to be able to face uncertain and stressful situations with control and emotional balance.
Counsellors will use techniques such as Relaxation techniques, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, skill development, or mindfulness to help you manage your anger. Research has shown that a combination of these have been effective in helping people with anger issues.
Cognitive behaviour therapy is one of today's most effective forms of psychotherapy. "Cognitive" refers to what we think and how we think. As counsellors we believe that emphasise should be placed on understanding the thoughts, beliefs and behaviours that are connected with our clients moods, physical experiences and events in our lives. The central idea in CBT is that your thoughts about an event or experience powerfully affect your emotional, behavioural and physical responses to the event or experience.
I am here to help you to identify and understand the connections among your thoughts, moods, behaviours and physical reactions in everyday situations as well as during major events in your life. You will learn to think about yourself and situations in more helpful ways and to change the thinking patterns and behaviours that keep you stuck in distressing moods and relationships. You will discover how to make changes in your life when your thoughts alert you to problems that need to be solved. Finally these changes will help you feel happier, calmer, more confident and help you create and enjoy more positive relationships. The skills that you learn will also help you with stress, alcohol and drug use; eating issues. relationship struggles, low self-esteem and more.
The more time that you spend practicing these skills the more benefit you will receive.
The purpose of counselling is to help clients recognize their strengths, discover the beliefs and emotions that are restricting their emotional growth by talking openly and freely to someone who is impartial and emotionally free of entanglements.
A counsellor doesn’t give advice or judge a client. A counsellor allows the client to express a full range of emotions including but not limited to anger, resentment, guilt and fear in a safe and secure environment.
The counselling relationship is a formal contracted process that should conform to accepted practices.
The scope of this relationship includes
· Considering the health and wellbeing of the client
· Treat clients with patience and compassion
· Have an appreciation of cultural and religious diversity
· Listen and identify the concerns of the client
· Respect the right of a client to make their own decisions on their health care.
· Maintain and secure client records
· Abide by strict ethical principles and guidelines
· An agreement of the number of sessions and costs. A new contract can be raised if the client feels that they need further counselling.
The limitations of counselling are generally for the benefit of the client; these limitations don’t mean that a counsellor can’t continue to help their client. The limitations are in place so that if a client is experiencing suicidal thoughts or there is a risk of impending violence or abuse to themselves, others or children then the client should be referred to another more skilled psychiatrist or the client is advised to contact lifeline, kids help line or the suicide call back service.